Run, run far away! Isn’t that what we want to do? When we are dealing with difficult people, and situations, let’s just say, we’d rather not, but we can run, hide and avoid every time, and in a minute we are faced with another one.
First, we are all fallible humans, with personality quirks, difficult pasts, stories and hurts. We also can be pretty selfish. We instinctively think of our selves first, our feelings, our hurts, our loves, and when one or all of these things gets infringed upon or we are put in an uncomfortable situation, we want to flee, do we not? Or we want to fight, but neither of these are the best answer.
Jesus said “love your neighbor as yourself.”
He didn’t say, love only the neighbors that are easy to get along with.
“Jesus, you can’t really mean I need to love that person that is difficult?”
Yes he said, “love your neighbor as yourself”, and he said, “love your enemy.” Jesus must have got that one wrong, right? He must have meant, fight your enemy!
It’s a tall order, and no one does this instinctively, so how in the world are we able to?
He gives us the power to do it through His spirit. He is helping us in our weakness. The apostle Paul said, “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” The key words are, “through Christ”
Try and do it on your own power, it’s too much! We can’t carry that. Jesus said, “Come unto me all you who are heavy burdened and I will give you rest.”
He will carry it and give us the grace to follow through.
The next time you are approached by a difficult person, and it will be soon, pray, Lord help me in my weakness, give me grace to handle this person with love and care. I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. You may not get a fuzzy feeling; most likely you won’t. Love is not a feeling it’s an action. Go against your own feelings, and act in the way you know is right.
God will bless it and work in it and through it. This is how walls of hostility are torn down.
Second, I have been the “difficult person” in someone’s life, I can actually think of a several times right now. We’ve all been the difficult person.
When I am pointing the finger, I try to remember to look at myself first. That’s not easy though.
How are we difficult sometimes? It’s good to look at our own flaws and short comings.
The good news is, God loves us in our messy difficulties. He loves us in our moaning and complaining. He loves us in our grumpiness. He is patient with us. God knows we are not capable of living this out perfectly, but if we will come to Him and let Him work in us, He will help us and give us the grace we need, but we must call upon Him. He won’t force His way.
“I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” Philippians 4:13