When someone says, “no I don’t want you,” whether it’s a love relationship, friendship, family relationship. The key word is relationship. We are not robots and we live and thrive through our relationships.
And when someone says, “nope I don’t want what you’ve got. I don’t want you.” It is a pierce through the heart. It penetrates deeper than most anything else.
I have recently gone through a couple of rather painful rejections, and it still stings.
Through these experiences, God has been teaching me three things:
1. It’s not about me. I’m forced to stop thinking about how hurt I am and start loving and forgiving. The broken relationships have a much bigger picture than I can ever see. God is doing something greater. He is making all things work together for good, to them that are called according to his purpose. Can I trust that? Yes I certainly can. What He says, is a promise.
2. We are created for relationships, yet there is one relationship that should be above all and that is with Jesus. Is He number 1?
3. I am sharing in Christ sufferings. Jesus was/is rejected. All of his sufferings, rejections were for us. Jesus knows this hurt, this pain, but He loved, he forgave those that rejected and hurt Him.
“Father forgive them for they know not what they do.”
Over and over Jesus shows us how to deal with this. Repay with love!
I think the only way God can get through to us on a personal level is to show us a glimpse of the rejection he received/receives. He is teaching me that this is a part of becoming more like Him.
Be encouraged! He has overcome the world!
1 Peter 4:12-13
Dear friends, do not be surprised at the fiery ordeal that has come on you to test you, as though something strange were happening to you. But rejoice inasmuch as you participate in the sufferings of Christ, so that you may be overjoyed when his glory is revealed.